Own It

I've started this post about five times now.  Trying to be insightful.  Trying to be empathetic.  I finally settled for authenticity and a vent.  And before I go any further...No it's absolutely NOT about my Daddy.  In fact it has absolutely nothing really to do with me.  But I'm going to say it anyway.

If you can't say the actual words.  Don't say it.  I realize we are in an age of shorthand everything, but those are words you don't carelessly dumb down.  Ever.

Show respectful of your Dom
Show respectful of your relationship
And show respectful of your own feelings.

It's the difference between slop and a five course meal.  Which one are you going to offer a Man who nurtures and builds you up?  Be intentional.  Own it.  Don't half ass shit just to avoid the emotional discomfort of being out on the ledge.  A rich life doesn't happen in a safety zone.  If you're not ready and still need your safety zone?  Fine.  Then just shutthefuckup.

Be silent unless you're brave enough to be respectful and intentional.  No one says the relationship dynamic has to evolve quickly.  Slow the fuck down and make every step count.

Even the little things count, especially at the beginning of a relationship.  How you approach one another.  How well you listen, pay attention, and respond.  The words you choose.  You're looking to build your relationship's foundation here.  Decide.  Do you want a foundation built of sturdy, solid boulders slowly shifted into place?  Or or haphazardly poured watered-down cement because it's just easier and doesn't require as much work?  Which base will stand the test time?  Which will hold up against the storms of life?

Augh.  Why is it that this even has to be explained?
~DominaKat