My Advice to Male Subs Seeking

~sigh~  This shouldn't be necessary, but apparently it is.  Nearly every initial email I get from a male sub is ridiculous.  This isn't even about whether or not they have read my profile and taken note that I'm not looking for a sub at this time.  No...this is basic manners.  For whatever reason, male subs seem to miss what female subs actually easily comprehend and respect at least in regards to Me.  Now, onto the lesson...

I am NOT your Domme!  Do not snivel and beg and plead in an initial email.  I haven't agreed to listen to your inane pathetic whining.  I haven't sought out your humiliation.  Do not try to force your silly version of submission on Me.  It's rude, nauseating, and gets an instant "Ewwww...gross."  As a Domme, I would be the One to tell a sub when it is time to drool and whine and plead and exactly how to please Me.  NONE of that is not for you to decide.

Whimpering and begging to serve Me in initial emails is NOT respect.  In fact, I believe it is the utmost in disrespect.  It shows in stark clarity that you don't really care WHO dominates you just someone/anyone will do.  If you think that is a compliment then you are not only desperate but also stupid.  Neither of which are appealing characteristics to Me in a play partner.

Think about it...I am a complete stranger!  You have no idea if our personalities and interests even line up, let alone kinks.  ~eye roll~

If a you litter Fet and every other online community with your submission it truly is of NO VALUE.  I don't want - nor have I EVER wanted - what anyone else can have.  It is a complete turn off as a friend, as a lover, as a play partner.

Maybe professional or dedicated Dommes like or expect this kind of crap.  I am neither.  Maybe at some point your emails score you some type of temporary fun.  But really...how many Dommes, Switches, or Women do you insult and offend in your obnoxious introduction?  Is that really what you hope to achieve?   You're no better than a bum on the street begging for change.  Is that really the impression you want to leave?

Please also note that porn is NOT reality.  Few play partners spend every second in extreme play.  Seriously...at some point folks like to come up for air, and most want to be able to have conversations with the people they play with.  If I sought a sub, I'd actually want him/her to be someone I LIKED and even respected regardless of how and when I choose to dominate/humiliate/hurt them.  I don't surround myself with  idiots.  It's tedious and annoying.  I'd want a sub that made Me feel good to be around not disgusted.

My advice...Try acting like a sane, reasonably intelligent, self-respecting adult initially.  Is that really so hard to comprehend?  In my two years on Fet I have only come across one male sub I actually respect.  Why?  Because he is intelligent, selective, self respecting, respectful, and appreciative.  THAT type of sub is something attractive and of value.  The patheticness that I routinely get in my email is the kind that needs a mop and a garbage can.  Yuck!
~DominaKat