to Love a man

To love a Dom, an Owner, a Master, a Man is not a always a simple task.  No matter whether it's a D/s or vanilla journey, loving Him is not simply a heady flight filled with beautiful views and thrilling adventure.  There's turbulence and sudden drops and course corrections.  Because that Dom/Owner/Master is still a Man.

Even in the best of Men, there are long days when He'll be wonderful, and there will be those moments when He is a cranky bear and nothing you can say or do will push away that mood.  Sick, tired, disheartened, frustrated...those are human emotions that even the ones we love and embrace a D/s dynamic with will feel at some point, and as the woman who loves Him, you hold on and do your best to help Him find His way back to that sweet harmony of life.

An Owner or Dom, for all His wisdom and all the miles He'll lead surely, will get lost once and a while and take you the long way or let the leash grow lax as He gets His bearings.  That's the life of a Man - any and every Man.  To love Him is to hang on to patience and to alert Him when you see a possible way out.  But most of all, it is to stay by His side in loyalty to be there in comfort, strength, and reassurance when the journey doesn't go as planned.

To love a Man is to love Him not only when He gets it so fucking right it makes you cry in joy and happiness, but to love Him when He makes an error and goes a little too far or falls short.  Love isn't dependent on perfection.

That strong, intelligent, passionate Man is human and will have moments when strength can't be found or He fucks up or His life well is simply a bit dry.  He'll fart, leave a mess, be an occasional dick, or miss an opportunity for encouragement.  Loving a dream or a fantasy is never a good idea because no matter how much you admire, adore, believe, and love that capital letter, the reality is that those titles are bestowed on men.  Flawed, complicated, simple, normal REAL, beautiful men.

To love a Man is to see the man - your man - in all His glory and His challenges and to love the sum of all that He is...the sexy, affectionate Titles, the Man, and most of all...the man.
~DominaKat